This week for the first time ever I had opposition from my 4 1/2 year old son M when clothes shopping for him.
We were at H&M, I was standing by a rack of jeans and before I could say anything he yelled out “MAMI, quiero los pantanlones narajos”/”I want the orange pants.” I looked at him, a bit stunned and he said “SI. Esos”/”YES. Those” he said pointing at the bright orange corduroy trousers and giving me a big grin. I know my son — and I knew he meant business.
There was nothing wrong with them, but I hadn’t planned on such brightness for him. I suggested the burgundy ones and he shook his head, said “No gracias. Yo quiero los naranjos”/”No thank you. I want the orange ones” and removed a pair from the rack.
I was completely thrown off guard. When did he get so concerned about his clothes?
However, I didn’t make a big deal so I agreed and found the right size.
I said he could try on the orange one and also a pair of dark blue jeans. He agreed, but as we rounded the corner he said “ESOS”/”THOSE” pointing to the cobalt pants. I asked if he was sure and he shook his head yes and said those were his favorite colors. I tried to show him other styles and colors but he wouldn’t have it.
I thought I was in the clear, but then… it was time to select a pair of sneakers. I wanted the classic black Chuck Taylor style high tops, but NOPE. I was shot right down. He wanted the bright orange shoes.
I know my son is extremely opinionated and is set in his ways — but this newfound style stubbornness was completely new to me. Until now, he would just wear whatever I put on him and that was that.
This wasn’t exactly a difficult moment, but certainly a memorable parenting moment — one that will stay with me for a long time. It’s the day my son told me what HE wanted to wear. What HE liked. But deeper than that, it’s the reality that my little man, my gorgeous boy is starting to define his personality, his likes, dislikes and learning to choose for himself. I couldn’t be prouder!
Being a parent is no JOKE and every day we are challenged to do the best we can be and raise strong, smart and kind individuals.
Now tell me what do you think of my little man’s new style?!